Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Ignorance is Bliss
As the kids get closer to their big first birthday, Jake and I have been talking alot about all that has gone on in the past year or two. Starting with the day I found out there was more than one weren't supposed to have an ultrasound so I went to the doc by myself. She checked me and decided that we should do an ultrasound and that's when they found two babies, and then thought she found a third but didn't say anything until she had the tech come and look. When she told me it was triplets I just kind of sat there looking at the screen and said OK. She wanted to make sure that I understood that I was pregnant with three babies, she said I was acting way too calm. She then told me that she was sending to a specialist b/c she wasn't comfortable handling such a risky pregnancy. After she set up our appointment with Dr. Papa , sh asked if I wanted her to call someone to come drive me home. I said no I was fine to drive, and again she said "You are acting entirely too calm, do you understand everything that just happened?" I said yes, told her thanks and then left. This is where being completely oblivious comes in handy. No normal person would just say OK, three babies, that's cool. I should have been freaking out, but I had no clue. I met Jake and our realtor right after I left the doctor (we were closing on our house that day), and just sat there and did all the paperwork, and didn't say anything to Jake until we got home about three hours later. Looking back, I should have called him, hysterical, because I had three babies in my belly, but I just sat there signing my name over and over. After I told Jake, he started drinking beer and I cried for about ten minutes. I asked him how we were going to handle three babies, he said "I don't know, we just will". Again, obliviousness pays off. If he would have panicked, I would have panicked and that doesn't help anything. If we would have had any idea about all the things that could have gone wrong with not only me but with the babies, we would have driven ourselves crazy thinking about everything. But we didn't, our biggest concerns were, one were we going to get to go to the OU football games, (we did get to go to all but one) and two, how big was I going to get (I was so sick I only gained twelve pounds). I thank God everyday for the kids, their health, all the basic stuff, but I also thank him for my ignorance. I know it might sound odd, but I think that's what got us through. The nurses and Dr. Papa used to tell me everyday that I was too calm, but stress only causes headaches and breakouts. Neither of which I enjoy. So when people ask us "How do you do it?", we just shrug our shoulders and say "I don't know, you just do!" Ahh, ignorance is bliss!