Wednesday, November 14, 2007

Ignorance is Bliss

As the kids get closer to their big first birthday, Jake and I have been talking alot about all that has gone on in the past year or two. Starting with the day I found out there was more than one weren't supposed to have an ultrasound so I went to the doc by myself. She checked me and decided that we should do an ultrasound and that's when they found two babies, and then thought she found a third but didn't say anything until she had the tech come and look. When she told me it was triplets I just kind of sat there looking at the screen and said OK. She wanted to make sure that I understood that I was pregnant with three babies, she said I was acting way too calm. She then told me that she was sending to a specialist b/c she wasn't comfortable handling such a risky pregnancy. After she set up our appointment with Dr. Papa , sh asked if I wanted her to call someone to come drive me home. I said no I was fine to drive, and again she said "You are acting entirely too calm, do you understand everything that just happened?" I said yes, told her thanks and then left. This is where being completely oblivious comes in handy. No normal person would just say OK, three babies, that's cool. I should have been freaking out, but I had no clue. I met Jake and our realtor right after I left the doctor (we were closing on our house that day), and just sat there and did all the paperwork, and didn't say anything to Jake until we got home about three hours later. Looking back, I should have called him, hysterical, because I had three babies in my belly, but I just sat there signing my name over and over. After I told Jake, he started drinking beer and I cried for about ten minutes. I asked him how we were going to handle three babies, he said "I don't know, we just will". Again, obliviousness pays off. If he would have panicked, I would have panicked and that doesn't help anything. If we would have had any idea about all the things that could have gone wrong with not only me but with the babies, we would have driven ourselves crazy thinking about everything. But we didn't, our biggest concerns were, one were we going to get to go to the OU football games, (we did get to go to all but one) and two, how big was I going to get (I was so sick I only gained twelve pounds). I thank God everyday for the kids, their health, all the basic stuff, but I also thank him for my ignorance. I know it might sound odd, but I think that's what got us through. The nurses and Dr. Papa used to tell me everyday that I was too calm, but stress only causes headaches and breakouts. Neither of which I enjoy. So when people ask us "How do you do it?", we just shrug our shoulders and say "I don't know, you just do!" Ahh, ignorance is bliss!

6 comments:

ccdean said...

Our 3 girls were born 2 1/2 weeks ago and I remember having the same concerns as you. My husband coaches Jr. College football and I was concerned about making it to his games (and will I ever get to go once the girls are here???) and I only gained 22 pounds!!! You boys are adorable. I hope we make it through the first year and can reflect back as you are doing now, and say what a great first year it was!
--Christy

Tubre Quads said...

Your babies are beautiful! I can't wait till mine are home from the NICU and growing like weeds. I saw your site on Billy and Moni's blog site. Keep up the good work.

Jaclyn Tubre

Cherie said...

Several of us triplet mamas have been dying to know how you look so great (and thin!!). . .Did you seriously only gain 12 lbs. during your pregnancy?????

Barron Triplets said...

I seriously did, I threw up everyday and everything I ate went straight to the kids. I ate protein shakes and 3 ensures everyday, but it all went to the kids! Kind of got lucky there.

Jeannie said...

It is crazy to look back and remember all that has happened in the last year, huh? I do that often. :)

How is the triplet stroller working? I found a triplet umbrella stroller made in the UK---they dont ship to the US but I am trying to work the system. I will let you know if anything comes of it! :)

Tammy said...

I can't imagine having more than one baby inside me! My 'big' baby was less than 6 pounds so having a total of 12 or so pounds of baby makes me feel really stuffed! I never doubted that Lindsay would make a great mommy. She's always excelled at whatever she put her mind to.
--Proud Aunt Tammy